Discoveries: We have come to realize a great many things together, like after our first trip to Hawaii, we both decided we love visiting Hawaii and consider it our special "together" place.  We also discovered that we really really enjoy trying out different brewpub beer and whenever we travel we always will try out the local brewpubs if possible.  We have discovered an acquired taste for oriental type food, in particular, Thai and Vietnamese dishes.  We have discovered that we travel well together and very much enjoy traveling to new and undiscovered places.  We have discovered that we enjoy being around each other, even if one of us in "just in the other room".  We have discovered that, over time, two people with similar ideas and beliefs can work out anything as long as there is communication and true feelings expressed.  Discoveries are wonderful, they can and do happen at any time, keep your eyes open for your own discoveries about each other and use those discoveries to build on your relationship!
Epilogue:   I can tell you that the years we have been together have been the best years of my life. We've had very few ups and downs since then but we always work them out. We have established boundaries in our relationship that we have both talked about in great detail and are mutually very happy with. In fact, before we committed to each other, we were very close friends for about 3 years so we knew a great deal about each other and the way we thought about life in general.  One of the things we occasionally tell each other is that we couldn't have been better matched up.  I believe that and Lyndon believes that. We both know that what we have is very rare and very special and there's nothing Lyndon or I can think of that is worth jeopardizing that! That we know from experience ;) Our philosophies, general outlook about life and how we feel about what "makes" us a couple is exactly the same...there is no guessing with each other about this.
Our outlook:   While we respect the variety of gay and lesbian relationships, ours is one of monogamy. Our strengths and weaknesses are in balance with each other our as our temperaments compliment each other.  I tend to want to "talk it out" while Lyndon would let it "rest" but we always, somehow, find enough middle ground so that small issues do not become large and threatening issues.  Our relationship is modeled from straight relationships and gay relationships.  The rules and boundaries in our relationship are based on common ideas about what a relationship means to both of us and the willingness to listen to each other, not only in words, but actions.  In some cases we talk about what we feel is acceptable and what is not.  It's not that our way is "the" way. Whatever makes you ultimately happy in the relationship you are in should be your guiding factor.  I hope that anyone reading this can find the happiness we have. 
That "special" something: All good relationships have something special about them or within them that should make each person feel good about it. In our case, it is several things... things that we know we have in common because we feel the same way about: monogamy, the real desire to do most things together, and most importantly, knowing that the way we feel about each other is mutual. If you are fortunate enough to be in a relationship as special as ours please remember to keep the "special" things alive and growing in your relationship. You should be best friends with each other, care for each other, have fun with each other, do little things for each other, and do everything you can to keep that commitment strong and alive!  When things are rough don't go out and find comfort somewhere else.  Relationships are not always sunshine and ice-cream parties.  They can have rough periods and times when they lag along.  Don't take the easy way out.  Find those things in your relationship that keep it important to you and always remember that something worth anything is always worth working for.  Be happy!
Share with us: We are always interested in hearing from other gay and lesbian couples from all over the country and world.  If you have a website that expresses your relationship or want to drop us a few lines, please email us, we'd like to hear from you.

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